Where do men go when they find themselves disconnected from the world or just plain feeling out of sorts? They might meet a buddy at the auto show or get together to watch the game. What other resources do you have? Dr. Phil's probably got you all scared to open your mouth!
It's hard to adjust to a world seemingly spinning out of control. Getting ahead in the "old" economy is getting harder and harder. There are limited resources for men who want to challenge the status quo, who want to break out from the "shoulds" that rule them, who are confused any more about what it means to "be a man."
Many websites discuss male menopause, male sexuality, mid-life crisis, and even the angry family man. This blog is not about that.
Welcome to your very own breathing space. This blog is dedicated to championing the cause of those honest, sincere, striving "good guys" out there who have no place to turn to for straight talk about work, friends, family and money.
The fact is, the only person most men can turn to when confronted with these issues is his partner, which can be isolating and insular. That's why I created this space; so that you would have a place to turn to and know that you are A) not crazy and B) not alone. I want to answer your questions and address your concerns about your personal and professional every day life.
Rat Race Running You Ragged?
Most men are probably wondering, "Where the hell do I fit in anymore?" Some men confuse wanting off the rat race roller coaster as the start of a mid-life crisis. But a crisis, when confronted, is an opportunity. Someone once wrote, "confusion is the threshhold of a greater awareness." Most intelligent men understand this concept but tend to judge it. I'm here to tell you that confusion is a good thing!
Think for a moment about Chinese handcuffs; the harder you pull, the stronger they bind you. The same is true with confusion; if you fight the fact that you cannot control your confused state, you will continue to muddle along. Instead, consider the possibility that by adapting to a new and changing reality, clarity and direction are yours for the asking.
When we resist change, there is no space to move, to explore, to expand. Just because the competitive landscape has changed and relationships are often fraught with frustration does not diminish your role or importance. You have the potential to be at cause in your life. Providing you with some guideposts is my goal.
Maybe it's your turn to create, not compete. Give yourself permission to breathe.photo credit: Ethan Bloch via photopin cc