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Some people find it odd that I'm a woman writing for men, and recently I found a man writing for women.

I'm delighted to introduce to you Owen Johnson, my first Guest Blogger:

We've all heard about guys going through the dreaded "midlife crisis." Or "male menopause" as women like to call it. Usually this involves a guy who hits a certain age, and suddenly feels the urge to look and act more youthful. The cliché is the middle-aged guy who goes out and splurges on a new sports car.

Evolutionary psychologists believe the "midlife crisis" is real, but it happens for reasons you wouldn't expect. It’s not because the man has reached middle age; it’s because his wife has. The midlife crisis is triggered because his wife is about to enter (or has entered) menopause, meaning she can no longer reproduce.

This in turn makes the man feel a renewed need to attract younger women, in order to have a way to continue producing offspring.

On a conscious level, the middle-aged guy usually doesn't have any interest in having more kids. But on a deeper, primal level, he is being driven to pursue this.

He’s probably not thinking to himself, “Hmm... My wife is getting too old to bear children, so I’d better go out there and find a fertile young hottie.” But his primitive needs are telling him to do so.

A 50-year-old guy married to a 25-year-old woman probably won't experience a midlife crisis. But a 25-year-old guy married to a 50-year-old woman probably will.

So, the midlife crisis really doesn't have anything to do with the man reaching a certain age. It’s about the age of his partner.

While we're at it, here’s another interesting factoid:

The famed "Seven Year Itch" has actually been researched and found to be false.

It's a THREE year itch.

Most couples that have not had a child after 3 years start to feel the pull towards other sexual partners because the union has not resulted in the bearing of a child. Our minds turn off to that person on a certain level because they haven't proven themselves as fertile.

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About the Author
Owen Johnson, Man2Woman.net, owner and blogger at "Let's Talk....Man to Woman" helps women to understand men better - how men think, what men want and how men communicate - so they can enjoy happy, healthy relationships with men. He's also the author of an e-book by the same title.

Comments

[Nicolette]

Carl,

Thank you so much for your kind words. My goal was to make this site a resource for men (and women). Naming it Man-o-pause was intended to convey my subtle sense of humor.

Re: your interest in holistic health. Check out http://www.bodhicare.org. They're dedicated to starting an integrative health care facility and need feedback.

I look forward to publishing your articles.

Welcome to the world of blogging!

[Carl]

Hi Nicolette,
When I found your site and began to read it brought the biggest smile to my face.I think it is wonderful that you have exhibited a sensitivity to the issues involved in the aging process of men.

I worked as a Social Worker for 20 years and am now manager of a high rise designed for seniors.I have made it a priority to teach my staff including the maintenance staff in the building about the process in general. I believe that whether you are signing a lease, helping someone with their insurance snags or fixing a clogged sink, that appropriate interaction and understand needs to happen.

But back to "Mens" issues :)
I have found over the years that the support systems that were in place for men and their unique issues were few and far between. It has not become a "cause" for me, but i and happy to see your focus here.

I have recently begun blogging and there is much for me to learn. I have begun to write with a focus on a holistic view of health and hope to build on this bit by bit.

From time to time I would like to contribute and article to your blog that is revelant to your theme. I would also be very happy to accept an article from you for my blog. I would personally enjoy an exchange with you very much.

regards,
Carl