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Some people find it odd that I'm a woman writing for men, and recently I found a man writing for women.
I'm delighted to introduce to you Owen Johnson, my first Guest Blogger:
We've all heard about guys going through the dreaded "midlife crisis." Or "male menopause" as women like to call it. Usually this involves a guy who hits a certain age, and suddenly feels the urge to look and act more youthful. The cliché is the middle-aged guy who goes out and splurges on a new sports car.
Evolutionary psychologists believe the "midlife crisis" is real, but it happens for reasons you wouldn't expect. It’s not because the man has reached middle age; it’s because his wife has. The midlife crisis is triggered because his wife is about to enter (or has entered) menopause, meaning she can no longer reproduce.
This in turn makes the man feel a renewed need to attract younger women, in order to have a way to continue producing offspring.
On a conscious level, the middle-aged guy usually doesn't have any interest in having more kids. But on a deeper, primal level, he is being driven to pursue this.
He’s probably not thinking to himself, “Hmm... My wife is getting too old to bear children, so I’d better go out there and find a fertile young hottie.” But his primitive needs are telling him to do so.
A 50-year-old guy married to a 25-year-old woman probably won't experience a midlife crisis. But a 25-year-old guy married to a 50-year-old woman probably will.
So, the midlife crisis really doesn't have anything to do with the man reaching a certain age. It’s about the age of his partner.
While we're at it, here’s another interesting factoid:
The famed "Seven Year Itch" has actually been researched and found to be false.
It's a THREE year itch.
Most couples that have not had a child after 3 years start to feel the pull towards other sexual partners because the union has not resulted in the bearing of a child. Our minds turn off to that person on a certain level because they haven't proven themselves as fertile.
About the Author
Owen Johnson, Man2Woman.net, owner and blogger at "Let's Talk....Man to Woman" helps women to understand men better - how
men think, what men want and how men communicate - so they can enjoy happy,
healthy relationships with men. He's also the author of
an e-book by the same title.
